What's the hardest part about being shaken to the core? 

I believe the answer, quite simply, is:

FEAR.

• Fear about making decisions.
• Fear about not recognizing yourself anymore.
• Fear about whether there's actually a way out of this hole.
• Fear about how others judge you in this delicate state. About losing your ability to think straight and follow through on things. About not even being able to figure out what to follow through on. 
• When you've had a low blow, isn't the most important thing to get back to baseline ASAP?

Well to get back to baseline, people need to grieve their losses. They need to give themselves time and permission to experiment with new things. They have to be willing to stretch at the same time as they want to curl up and hide. 

I can help you...

I've had to rebuild my identity a handful of times. Each time was devastating and each time there was no roadmap for me to follow. 

When I lost my social work career to a disability, the doctors gave me a life raft and pushed me out to sea towards a new destination I'd chosen.

But in the pressure of the moment, while I understood and valued my choice, that destination wasn't an end all to my problem. In fact, I felt uncomfortable in my own skin with that choice. 

So I kept seeking a way back to what brings me meaning — using my therapeutic voice to help people become stalwart self-advocates. 

Much of the time I felt like I was blindfolded. It was like following the bread crumbs, but each next bread crumb only revealed itself on its own timeline. It took way longer than I wanted and try as I might, I could not push the river.

It took many steps, with many intervals in between, to find a way back to myself. To find a new way to fit myself back together with all the pieces in place that I needed to feel whole again. And to no longer hide anything about myself. 

I finally discovered the topic — identity loss — that gave me a path forward to living with meaning again. Now I have the direction I needed to provide programs and services that help people heal and chase their dreams. One of these is my membership program — Courage-Ignite BrainExhange (CIBREX).

Courage-Ignite BrainExchange is a community where you'll be held, witnessed and nurtured. 

I want to give you exactly what Anita and Susan, for 30 years in Berkeley, California, gave women who showed up once a month in Anita's living room. 

We brainstormed furiously on questions posed to the group. No topic was out of bounds and every question got boatloads of ideas. 

Now I'm offering their proven method, via Zoom, for my niche group of people regaining their footing after the rug's pulled out from under them.  

In CIBREX, every first Saturday of the month we help 6 - 8 people formulate their questions. Then we do highly facilitated brainstorming on these questions.

Even if you're not chosen to get your question brainstormed, being part of the process gives you a kind of contact high, where new ideas about your own question are likely to spontaneously erupt. 

And you know how it's so easy to be a genius thinking about other people's problems? Even if you don't have a question, contributing ideas to the brainstorm is sure to be the highlight of your month. Laughter abounds and you won't want to miss the intrigue and riveting energy.

Your monthly membership is 5 Pumpkin Spice Lattes ($25). It's sold in 6 month increments, with one month free, making the package $125!!

You also have the option of keeping this 'founder's forever fee!!!'

All you need to do is invite one or more other people to join with you right now, and you'll all be eligible to pay that for as long as you stay enrolled. This fee will only be offered until December 4, 2021. 

You'll get the 2-hour zoom event with both the main act — brainstorming — and smaller breakout rooms for networking and connecting. And afterwards, you'll have access to the zoom chat where BrainExchangers document their ideas and referral links creating an invaluable treasure trove of information. 

If it's your time for a dramatic method to move you forward and a safe place to be seen and heard, then I'd like to invite you to become a member of our fun-loving, generous community where you'll move forward faster.

You really have nothing to lose!! 

If you give me an opportunity to show you the power of this group, you'll see firsthand how it'll shake you free (at least for that evening!) of your sense of disorientation and ambiguity — the hallmarks of identity transition. 

You'll spend 2 solid hours with no fear in sight, basking in possibility, connecting with others going through a tough time, sharing bits of your struggle and getting loved up by cool people in a safe space. 

If you don’t feel like this is your time, you'll get the benefit of the first meeting and you can cancel your membership at any time. I'll give you a prorated refund on unused months. Either way, you'll have made an informed choice and voted for yourself.