Control lies in choice of perspective
When the enormity of your child’s diagnosis sinks in, you feel as if control over your life’s slipped through your fingers like water.
Control with a capital “C” becomes a thing of the past.
You feel like you’ve been given a life sentence of overwhelm, fear, and hopelessness.
You’re alone in a silo of grief that appears to have no top or bottom.
Platitudes from friends and family hurt more than help.
While they may understand intellectually, they’ll never be in your shoes nor able to fathom the realities of your experience.
Once the dust settles and shock thaws off, YOU begin to understand where you’ve landed…
… that the rest of your life will be designed around running in high gear, with extraordinary responsibilities that you must build your new normal around.
- The top thing to do now is renegotiate your relationship with choice, right when it’s stripped away from you.
It’s important to seek and recognize choice where you find it, then use your agency —your ability to make change happen— to leverage it.
- When we leverage choice over decisions —including and ESPECIALLY around our perception of reality— it gives us a healthy dose of freedom.
… that creates a ripple effect, and we see more and more places where we still CAN take control.
We never have control over that much of what happens externally. Circumstances are what they are.
And we DO have control over our perspectives, which directly affect how good or bad we feel.
Choosing where we place our focus liberates us.
- When we change perspectives we make choices that better support us.
We CAN suffer less and enjoy more, even within the throes of the bleakest of circumstances.
—Julie
NEW NORMAL COACHING
