When’s it okay to cut ties?

When’s it okay to cut ties with people?

— When you want to live by design rather than default.

— When you’re no longer settling for life on autopilot.

This is when it’s important to free yourself from beliefs, habits, and people that don’t align with this new version of you and what you're building.

It’s a chance to ask:

•  “Which connections no longer serve me?”

Then act on the answers.

Every relationship will have its unique factors to assess.

And there can be a shifting of degrees of connectedness vs ending a relationship all together.

But even before a contemplative assessment you’ll have answers about some.

Those with whom you feel worse rather than better after encounters.

Relationships where, on balance, you feel

Drained.

Criticized.

Belittled.

Undermined.

Ignored.

These are the no brainer changes you’ve been putting off.

Cutting ties to these is probably best, whatever the cost.

And because other relationships are more nuanced

and your needs are unique to you,

it helps to build a measurement tool to define with intentionality what constitutes:

• A relationship that’s beneficial to YOU.

Then respect and act on your definition and guidelines.

This will help keep you true to yourself.

If you’re in a life transition, chosen or forced, it becomes both easier AND more necessary to gather with kindred spirits and shield yourself from those holding you back.

—Julie Browne
—Author of Masters of Change

P.S. There’s nothing selfish about any of this.

It’s our birthright to surround ourselves with

supportive people

and

limit the impact of those who aren’t.