Ep.2. Tammy Roach - Health Crisis and Relationships

A bonafide, virtually recovered codependent, separated from her husband after almost 3 decades with a man suffering from alcoholism, Tammy Roach is in transition. A car accident gave her a traumatic brain injury, persistent post concussive syndrome, and yanked away her old identity lock, stock and barrel, catapulting her into a new, luxurious identity that includes “Being Joy!!” Tammy’s had a few lifetime’s worth of challenges, starting with not feeling safe in her family. She’s got an adopted brother with fetal alcohol syndrome, autism, and at 18 became homeless with schizophrenia. She’s been a caregiver to many family members, including her husband as he survived a brain tumor. And her daughter was in a mass shooting. This interview is chock-full of insights she’s discovered on her path to wholeness and freedom. Here’s a few: Silence is no longer an option. Joy is possible regardless of circumstances. Life can include not fitting into others’ boxes. We break out of others’ boxes by speaking our truth. Your real you is BEGGING to come forth. You matter. Boundaries are better constructed as gates than walls. Boundaries are for you to uphold vs. others to respect. Overwhelm is a symptom of not living your truth. Feeling good is a clue that your choices are in alignment with your soul. You can change your belief system by tuning into your emotions and evaluating the current validity of rules you’re following. When you believe differently, you make new rules that pull you back to your core self. Allow grace to dilute shame. Tactic to shift from shame — Use awareness to move into acceptance — you did the best you could in that moment. Settling keeps you unfree and under external and internal pressure. Reframe “Struggle” from something to work AGAINST, to something to struggle FOR. Joy comes from sovereignty. You can reclaim your power through your voice — “language upgrades.” Self-care, meditation and speaking your truth are core to experiencing the love and freedom that is your birthright. All the love you desire is within you. You must give it to yourself. Bio Tammy Roach helps women remember who they are. When we remember who we are, we open to our true purpose and experience peace and satisfaction. She works as an aromatherapist, breath-work coach and will soon debut her podcast This TLC Life. She teaches clients how to transform physical and emotional pain, reduce physiological stress and release stuck emotions. She helps women find freedom to live authentically. Tammy’s lived most of her life separate from her true calling. She was the epitome of  co-dependent. After a car accident, that changed from black to white. No longer able to live someone else’s requirements, she HAD to live her authentic life. She kick-started her journey with self-care. Self-care made self-love accessible, which put self-worth within reach. And self-worth gave her the golden nugget — self-value — making it possible to believe that she matters. Once we’ve allowed ourselves to receive the love we so profoundly desire, our lives change. Instagram — https://instagram.com/tammyroachofficial - Music - Happy African Village by John Bartmann